I have had few instances in my life, when very fine people whom I really liked and considered good friends, left me (stopped talking), just like that, and I had no clue – why?
I tried to contact, in case there’s any misunderstanding between us, which I have no idea about, or I made a mistake I could apologize for that for they are amazing people I wouldn’t ever want to lose. But, there was no response – atleast not convincing enough!
As if they’ve shut the door of their heart.
I know I don’t fall in “chronic negative mindset category” and they acknowledge and admit that too, then it was completely baffling for me when they stopped associating.
I am sure, you’ve had such instances too, at some point in life and must have felt sad. I totally understand!
Frankly, it was a bit disturbing for me too initially (few days may be), and then I realised –
“Oh, it’s not about me! It’s about them!
They’ve unresolved issues in their mind, and they are not able to break free from their thinking pattern. It isn’t necessarily about me, but some other issues disturbing them in their life that I don’t have idea about and they aren’t comfortable sharing, which is perfectly okay (everyone needs space in every relationship), and they perhaps need time to heal themselves.or perhaps it is about me, but then again it isn’t about me because it’s their judgement/point of views (which could be absolutely false, their mind-made story) of me or an event with me, that’s disturbing them.
Irrespective of what it is, remember “do not take anything personally”, because it’s just about them alone! It’s their fight with their mind – until they resolve it.
If they come back with all their heart, I’ll hug them and welcome them ❤️ and if they don’t (for reasons best known to them), I’ll keep moving forward (as life goes on) cherishing wonderful times I have spent with them.”
I have realised, when we start looking at every event in life objectively, it stops hurting (mentally, emotionally) completely!
Take care of yourself ❤️